Mostly, I coach. This means that I have a conversation with you where I invite you to explore what is important to you, what values, needs and interests are a priority, what changes you would like to make, and how that might happen. That’s it in a nutshell.
They way I do it is like this: I remain on your side, non-judgmentally, listening deeply to what you’re saying as well as to what isn’t said. I check where I’m not clear in case you’re not clear either and question, sometimes gently sometimes more forcefully, whether untested and unhelpful beliefs lie behind some of your thought processes and are getting in the way of your goals. It’s that sort of thing. The conversation will look different for each client – it’s the client’s material that leads the direction – but some things will remain as standard. Coaching is always a space for you to explore what is important to you, and the focus will be on moving forwards and sorting stuff out.
My long experience in dispute resolution (please see the Dispute Resolution page if you’re interested in a mediation) has gifted me with skills in helping clients navigate difficult conversations, as well as with techniques that invite people to investigate and manage uncomfortable or confrontational situations.
I also offer relationship coaching for sexual partners, children and parents, siblings or business partners, helping you navigate your way through situations that merit that extra bit of assistance.
I am equally happy in a business environment as I am in discussing people’s intimate lives. I work with young, old and middle aged; equal opportunities and non-discrimination is a cornerstone of my practice as is an unrelenting commitment to confidentiality.
I have worked as a lawyer, in private enterprise and the public sector, have a Masters in Creative Writing and have raised children. These experiences inevitably add knowledge and understanding to much of the work I do. Where necessary, and by agreement, I am happy to move into a mentor role, for example with help in editing a piece of writing, or signposting to agencies or advisors to help with specific situations.
I work from my home in St Albans, where I provide a quiet, private environment.
I also work face to face by Skype and also by telephone.
I am happy to meet in a public space so long as it is relatively quiet. Meetings in cafes and pubs can be just as productive, so long as you are comfortable in the environment.
A coaching walk is nice too, if you fancy that.
Sessions are an hour or an hour and a half – you choose.
The first session is free. Here we will talk about what’s going on in your life, what’s important to you now and what, broadly, you’re hoping for from the process. We will discuss how coaching works, how many sessions you’d like, payment terms, and review. The first conversation is an opportunity to air any anxieties or reservations, ask any questions and decide whether I am the right coach for you.
If you decide to go ahead I will send you a contract and invoice; we will fix some dates and off we go.