Life coaching is about helping people find answers. Sometimes the questions are obvious; sometimes the work is uncovering the questions first
Working with a coach will help you focus on the parts of your life that you might feel dissatisfied with, anxious or upset about, or simply that don’t seem as perfect as their earlier promise.
Coaching is forward looking and works best with people who are looking for change. As a coach, I won’t advise or offer you solutions though I will let you know what comes up for me when I hear you speak, what patterns I might be noticing, what habits of thought or belief might be ripe for challenge.
You take your car in for a regular service and go to the dentist for a check-up every six months. How about offering yourself some coaching to fix the exhaust before it falls off, to fill that hole before it really starts to hurt?
My long experience in workplace mediation and as an employment lawyer has convinced me that what holds people back at work is the same as what holds people back outside work.
Offering regular coaching sessions to employees to help them investigate what is important in their lives – their relationships, their ambition, their fears and anxieties, where they get stuck, where they feel undervalued, what they love and enjoy – is not only a transformational offering in terms of employee well-being, but will pay extraordinary dividends in terms of motivation, productivity, and retention. I can help employees manage difficult conversations or deal with other communication problems. Happier employees mean happier workplaces means more work done means increased profits.
When a relationship breaks down there will be other people to manage too – children, wider family, colleagues and shared friends; there may well be financial arrangements to work through, often with someone you cannot even talk to without shouting or crying.
I can help you navigate your way through painful and difficult situations, manage and come to terms with grief, shock and anger, and provide you with an opportunity outside your lawyer’s office to help you work out what’s really best for you and the people you care about. My experience in dispute resolution, my work as a family lawyer, my own experience of the breakdown of a long marriage and my particular interest in this type of coaching gives me a unique set of tools to help you navigate your way through this difficult and testing time.
I work with individuals and couples, families and groups, two at a time, three at a time, wherever the need is for better communication and understanding.
I work with people wanting to improve their relationships, as well as people wanting to find a way to separate while causing the least fallout and stress to themselves and those around them. I also work with individuals experiencing the pain and difficulty of relationship breakdown, at the point of crisis or sometimes years later.
Call or email me through the contact page to discuss whether this work is for you.
I am a mediator, experienced in workplace, commercial, inter-generational, relationship and neighbour dispute resolution. Coaching is a crucial part of my practice, and I see the work as part of the same family – it mostly boils down to communication, how to be heard and how to listen. Once you’ve nailed that, sorting out an agreement is the easy part. Take a look at my dedicated Dispute Resolution website for more information.
Even after the first session with Penelope I felt like I had gained some order and control back in my life. Penelope has boosted my confidence and helped me to gently tackle one issue at a time… She has been instrumental in helping me to prioritise what I need to focus on.
Mostly, I coach. This means that I have a conversation with you where I invite you to explore what is important to you, what values, needs and interests are a priority, what changes you would like to make, and how they might happen. That’s it in a nutshell.
They way I do it is like this: I remain on your side, non-judgmentally, listening deeply to what you’re saying as well as to what isn’t said. I check where I’m not clear in case you’re not clear either and question, sometimes gently sometimes more forcefully, whether untested and unhelpful beliefs lie behind some of your thought processes and are getting in the way of your goals. It’s that sort of thing. The conversation will look different for each client – it’s the client’s material that leads the direction – but some things will remain as standard. Coaching is always a space for you to explore what is important to you, and the focus will be on moving forwards and sorting stuff out.
My long experience in dispute resolution has gifted me with skills in helping clients navigate difficult conversations, as well as with techniques that invite people to investigate and manage uncomfortable or confrontational situations.
I also offer relationship coaching for partners, children and parents, siblings or business colleagues, helping you navigate your way through situations that require that extra bit of assistance.
I am equally happy in a business environment as I am in discussing people’s intimate lives. I work with young, old and middle aged; equal opportunities and non-discrimination is a cornerstone of my practice as is an unrelenting commitment to confidentiality.
I have worked as a lawyer, in private enterprise and the public sector, have raised children, been married and divorced. These experiences inevitably add knowledge and understanding to the work I do.
I work from my home in St Albans, where I provide a quiet, private environment.
I also work face to face by Skype and also by telephone.
I am happy to meet in a public space so long as it is relatively quiet. Meetings in cafes and pubs can be just as productive, so long as you are comfortable in the environment.
A coaching walk is nice too, if you fancy that.
Individual sessions are one hour. Couple or group sessions may require longer and are priced differently.
The first session is free. Here we will talk about what’s going on in your life, what’s important to you now and what, broadly, you’re hoping for from the process. We will discuss how coaching works, how many sessions you’d like, payment terms, and review. The first conversation is an opportunity to air any anxieties or reservations, ask any questions and decide whether I am the right coach for you.
If you decide to go ahead I will send you a contract and invoice; we will fix some dates and off we go.